Tipping point of humanity - What are you choosing?

Spending the weekend with some awesome friends at an amazing event call The Awakening with the beautiful and gifted Sidra Jafri, I had a very big shift pertaining to challenge I have had all of my life. Wow was it profound!!!! I know I wasn't the only one and so having spent over 25 years in the industry of public speakers, entertainer and international super stars, it dawned on me we are truly changing as species! There is less necessity for guru's and experts as each one of us has something completely unique to contribute while we are in this dimension. Its just the level of vibration that is different and no one is better than another it just is energy. Those that are vibrating at a high frequency such as the wonderful Sidra are the new influencers who are facilitating a profound movement of change.

In a room of 200 or so people of which surprisingly there were more men than women, this incredible soul on stage, Sidra, embraced the whole concept of waking up to a whole new reality and letting go of the illusion of what we have created in our lives. It reminded me of two wonderful movies that have been on in the last few years - Avatar and the other Inception.These films at the time seemed futuristic and "Syfy" in their genre and the marketing was certainly positioned that way. However the more I pay attention the more I realise that so much of both these movies, what is happening in our existence today. I don't mean so much literally but more each element is actually happening in some way shape or form in our society, planet and conciousness.

So for instance with Avatar the main themes as I see it, are these:

• A world that works with nature, connected to nature and with each other for the benefit of all
• A movement outside of the natural order trying to gain resources for its own survival and not considering the consequences
• Two worlds that co-exist where the outcome for human kind are inextricably linked and yet so completely different

So I consider as I write this how much of REAL life (or our own personal illusion we have each created) is similar to those of a simple Syfy master piece? There is no need for me to answer this question as it's already answered through the knowing/sensing within us that we are experiencing and the shift and connection to something really profound.

Now with Inception it become interesting when we consider the power of our mind and how we use it daily to create the world we live in for each of us as individuals but also as the collective. Which part of our life is the "REALITY" and which part of it is the "ILLUSION"? Its amazing to think we are all completely individual in our creation! NO ONE on this earth is exactly like you. You are 100% truly unique! The way you look, the way you think, the way you see the world, the way you experience, the way people experience you is completely and totally unique! Is this really just a movie? How many of us related to either of these movies and had a sense of knowing and relating to what they were saying, even if we didn't fully understand or agree with it? There is a sense of knowingness?

And there are 7 billion unique souls all creating a similar reality and existence! If we wanted to change our reality or the illusion we could do it easily, not only as individuals but also as the collective without having to "convert" anyone just pay attention to ourselves. It simply is a choice of co-creation. Each individual "pebble" dropping into water creates its own ripple. So if each of us just created our own reality as we wanted it to be then the ripple affect of it could be huge. 

So we are coming to a "tipping point" where we as souls living a human experience can chose the life we wish to have in 2013 onwards - what an incredible time to be alive at the specific time of human evolution! How exciting that when you tap into the "source" of creation you can redefine your reality and co-create anything you want - SCARY and EXCITING all at the same time.

Pay attention to who you want to show up as, come from your heart and not just your head, believe, trust and have faith that life is full of abundance and joy and our experiences are gifts of learning and growth. We can chose to see the negative with anything or we can also chose to the see the glorious reality that just is without putting any meaning on it.

BE THE CHANGE!

With love and much appreciation and gratitude Tamar xxx

So what is this SHIFT time really about?

Part of my own inner transformation has been some serious research of what the fuss is all about with the whole 2012 and specifically the 12.12.2012 and 21.12.2012. So there is so much out there if you look on Google, YouTube, individual blog's both scientific and spiritual, the Mayan calendars and so many other unique happenings that we are experiencing in our life times.

The press just love the gloom and doom which in reality is just not so. Yes it is a time of transformation but it has been going on for the last few years and I believe it will continue at least until 2015 from what my research has offered. Global warming is happening and yes man is contributing to it but it is not the reason for it as its the earth's evolution which has been happening for millions of years - we just happened to be experiencing a specific time of evolution of the earth in our life time.

Governments, agents and other political parties have been very quiet about what is going on as divided we are ignorant and together we are powerful. So there is a VERY power joining of millions of like minded people that are sharing the TRUTH as they understand it not from a human capacity but from an enlightened perspective and very much a scientific angle too. One thing that the human "powers that be" can not thankfully control is the essence of human knowing and the sharing of this knowledge and experience.

There are some great individuals who seem to all be speaking the same messages so thought I would share it them with you:  Gregg Branden http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whKrENfkMEM. David Icke - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9hiVEZnmWn4&feature=related. Keisha Crowther -http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WMyq7xvlH08 and so many others. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEV5AFFcZ-s.

Such great information out there to make up your own mind. The common thread through all of these is to awaken to the real truth, understand your personal power and stay in place of love no matter may happen over the next year or few years. Just because something major may not happen on 12.12.2012 or 21.12.2012 or any other exact day, doesn't mean to say things are not changing. Pay attention to your energy, to what is happening in your own heart, if you are willing to pay real attention and be much more AWARE of your own existence and what it really means to be alive and your purpose. Be open to the possibility of whatever is out there even if it seems completely unreal - just pay attention - wake up!

The world is changing and becoming so much more of what we were meant to be as humans! There is so much evidence and even now scientific proof (what humans are able to comprehend as we are truly limited currently in understanding our world and using such a small percentage of our brain). Remember anything is truly possible as 50 years ago the internet and mobile phones were futuristic and not possible!

Do your own research, spend some time informing yourself and come from a place of some knowledge rather than a place of ignorance because its easier!

Really interested to hear your feedback!

Much love and light
Tamar

Being Spiritual - What does that Mean?

This was a very important question I asked myself as there are so many variations and opinions about "being spiritual". So my learning is this.......it is whatever you want it to mean to you. When I started this journey without consciously aware that I was going in a different direction as it just felt like it was the track I was meant to go on. Thought I would share some ideas so let me know what you think x

This is one idea .......Spirituality is the concept of an ultimate or an alleged immaterial reality; an inner path enabling a person to discover the essence of his/her being; or the "deepest values and meanings by which people live."Spiritual practices, including meditation, prayer and contemplation, are intended to develop an individual's inner life. Spiritual experiences can include being connected to a larger reality, yielding a more comprehensive self; joining with other individuals or the human community; with nature or the cosmos; or with the divine realm. Spirituality is often experienced as a source of inspiration or orientation in life. It can encompass belief in immaterial realities or experiences of the immanent or transcendent nature of the world.

Another idea........One of the great gifts of spiritual knowledge is that it realigns your sense of self to something you may not have even ever imagined was within you. Spirituality says that even if you think you're limited and small, it simply isn't so. You're greater and more powerful than you have ever imagined. A great and divine light exists inside of you. This same light is also in everyone you know and in everyone you will ever know in the future. You may think you're limited to just your physical body and state of affairs — including your gender, race, family, job, and status in life — but spirituality comes in and says "there is more than this."

Notice that spirit sounds similar to words like inspire and expire. This is especially appropriate because when you're filled with spiritual energy, you feel great inspiration, and when the spiritual life force leaves your body, your time on this earth expires. These are two of the main themes of the spiritual journey:

Allowing yourself to be filled with inspiration, which also translates into love, joy, wisdom, peacefulness, and service. Remembering that an inevitable expiration awaits to take you away from the very circumstances you may think are so very important right now.The study of spirituality goes deeply into the heart of every matter and extends far beyond the physical world of matter. Spirituality connects you with the profoundly powerful and divine force that's present in this universe. Whether you're looking for worldly success, inner peace, or supreme enlightenment, no knowledge can propel you to achieve your goals and provide as effective a plan for living as does spiritual knowledge.

Going beyond the physical world. Perhaps the best way to think about a spiritual approach to the world is to contrast it with a more common materialistic approach.

The materialistic approach: The materialistic approach relies primarily on empirical evidence provided by the five senses — what can literally be seen, heard, tasted, touched, or smelled. This approach depends on the outer appearances of things to decide how and what to think and feel about them. A materialistic person fixes whatever may be wrong or out of place in his or her world by moving things around and effecting outer changes. The spiritual approach: In contrast, the spiritual way is to see beyond mere outer appearances and the five senses to an intuitive perception of the causes behind outer conditions. Someone with a spiritual approach may change and uplift their world by first transforming and improving his or her own vision.


One of the main teachings of spirituality is to look within and find what you seek within yourself. The external world is ephemeral, temporary, and ever changing; in fact, your body will die one day, sweeping all those worldly accoutrements away like a mere pile of dust. Your inner realm, on the other hand, is timeless, eternal, and deeply profound.

Knowing how spirituality differs from religion. Although religion and spirituality are sometimes used interchangeably, they really indicate two different aspects of the human experience. You might say that spirituality is the mystical face of religion.

Spirituality is the wellspring of divinity that pulsates, dances, and flows as the source and essence of every soul. Spirituality relates more to your personal search, to finding greater meaning and purpose in your existence. Some elements of spirituality include the following:

• Looking beyond outer appearances to the deeper significance and soul of everything

• Love and respect for God

• Love and respect for yourself

• Love and respect for everybody

Religion is most often used to describe an organized group or culture that has generally been sparked by the fire of a spiritual or divine soul. Religions usually act with a mission and intention of presenting specific teachings and doctrines while nurturing and propagating a particular way of life.
Religion and spirituality can blend beautifully. Different religions can look quite unlike one another. Some participants bow to colorful statues of deities, others listen to inspired sermons while dressed in their Sunday finery, and yet others set out their prayer rugs five times a day to bow their heads to the ground. Regardless of these different outer manifestations of worship, the kernel of religion is spirituality, and the essence of spirituality is God or the Supreme Being.

Spirituality is:

Beyond all religions yet containing all religions
Beyond all science yet containing all science
Beyond all philosophy yet containing all philosophy
As one becomes more spiritual, animalistic aggressions of fighting and trying to control the beliefs of other people can be cast off like an old set of clothes that no longer fits. In fact, many seekers begin to feel that every image of divinity is just one more face of their own, eternally ever-present God.

Loving and respecting all religions and images of God doesn't mean that you have to agree with all their doctrines. In fact, you don't even have to believe and agree with every element and doctrine of your own religion! This goes for any teachings you may encounter along your path. Everybody thinks that what they are doing is right. That's what's so fun about the world. Everybody is doing something different, and each one believes deep in his soul that what he believes is right — some with more contemplation and conviction than others.

What else is possible?

It is a time in my life where I seem to have come to those cross roads again. It seems to happen at least every 10 years where I get this unsettled feeling and I stop and look at my life and see where I am at. I did this when I turned 30 and made some big decisions then! I got divorced and decided to move to the UK permanently so nothing major - just some life changing options.

To be honest I really didn't think to hard about either. For some reason I get to a stage where I just know what needs doing. My marriage was ok, been having some communication problems so we went to counselling, which never worked as he was not honest and didn't communicate with the therapist either. He wanted a house wife and I was a successful solo-preneur who travelled alot doing events, trainings and weekends away to venues. He actually was a really nice guy but not the right match as we just wanted completely different things. We remained great friends.  Sadly though he had an affair which I only found out afterwards. What can I tell you?!!!

After my home had been broken into twice in a month I just decided the writing was on the wall and it was time to spread my wings and fly! Little did I realise what a challenge that would be as I arrived in the UK one week after 9/11. It was not a great time and the whole hospitality industry crashed in the UK for about 6 months. It was a steep learning curve however I was pleased to be in a completely new country, new culture and on my own.

So now 12 years later I am getting that feeling again! My life has been full on for the last 10 years in the UK - the most challenging of my life with some of the greatest times and some of the worst both personally and professionally. So here I am again looking at my life going "what else is possible?" There are a few things that I have decided I REALLY want for at least the next 10 years of my life but preferably the rest of my life:

• More sunshine!
• Travel to new countries and old ones to visit friends
• To be close to my sister and niece (she's 8 and just beautiful)
• Live in a healthy and calm environment
• Be close with nature and particularly the sea
• Change my work to being focused on people and animals
• Learn more about alternative healing
• Have a soulful loving relationship

so not much at all then.......................

I can still do all the things I want to and have already started now as most of it is internet based or Skype so I just get to chose my view from my window! 

I am excited about the rest of my life and feel really privileged to have had the incredible experiences I have had over the past 12 years but it is time for me to move on.....What have I learnt from the experiences I have had? I leave that for another time x

Silver Linning!

With all experiences in life I have come to learn there is always something positive to gain from even what seems to be a negative experience. A passing of someone so dear and loved, a relationship that breaks up, a child who leaves home for the first time, a family member who leaves to live in another country, all of these seem challenging at the time and in most ways they are, and yet I see the other side of each experience too. The opportunity for that some one dear to no longer be in pain and be in a better place, a relationship that ends so we get the chance to fall in love again, a child venturing into to the world as their own person, family that may have better prospects or life style in another country, how exciting!!!

I think it is mainly how we personally feel and react to our experiences in our lives which determine how we chose to relate to what is happening. With my Dad's passing I am really truly only sad for me and the rest of the family as we will miss his physical body not being here with us as we are so used too. I am not sad for my Dad at all as I know he is no longer in pain, he is no longer worrying about his health and going into a home due to disability, he is no longer frustrated as he can't do all the things he wanted to as his body was failing him, he is in a place now where he can be an incredible source of guidance and support for all of us in a way he was not able to do during his life time on earth.

So this brings me onto what happens now......what lessons, what strength, what meaning can we take from such challenging experiences that are so bitter sweet? Here are the main things for me that have really come to my attention through this experience:

• I appreciate all the great times I had with my Dad and cherish those with my Mum now
• My life has a new direction, a new meaning of gratitude and love more than before
• To always be honest and caring to those you love including yourself
• To enjoy every day just as it unfolds and not be thinking of the past or the future
• To see your parent not just as a parent but as a person too
• Express your love as often as you can 
• That time is the most precious gift of all 

Now I am finally ready to take on the next phase of my life with gratitude and love for the wonderful lessons my Dad taught me in this life and will guide me in the next phase of my own life.  x

Life's Journey

It has been a while since I posted mainly due to a number of life changing experiences over the last 6 months or so. But also because I didn't feel like writing and baring my soul and thoughts which was a new feeling for me. Now I understand what they mean about writers block as if you just not in the write space, then you have to leave it until you are. Now I am ready to share my experiences and learnings over the last few months.

Making choices in our lives can be challenging especially if you don't go with your intuition,  you make the choice out of negative emotion or you just don't really think things through. Well I am guilty of all of these when it came to parents. I love my parents as they have given me so much to help me in the world. My relationship with my mother has never been close as every since I can remember I believed I was adopted. My father died when I was 2 years of age and I was definitely my fathers daughter so even at this tender age it unconsciously affected me that he was no longer there. However this was short lived as my step Dad replaced this role within a couple of years. And he was just an incredible angel for me. I felt loved and supported and bonded as I had never felt this with my mother. My childhood until I was 18 was a serious of typically family issues of ups and downs. For the most part I had a privileged up bringing with both parents and a comfortable home and good education. My main challenge was my relationship with my mother and unfortunately still remains to be to this day. Anyway we all have our stories and really that is not what I wanted to share so much as the impact my Dad's recent passing has had on my life and our family.

My Dad was a very gentle, caring, thoughtful, loving and easy going man. It would not be unfair to say that my mother though wore the pants in the house. So for most of my life my Dad has always been the one I went to for love and support. So when my mother mentioned 6 years ago, that they wanted to move from South Africa, I opened myself up to the possibility of them moving to the UK. My Dad is from England, even though he has been in Africa for over 50 years. Now I know my Dad was not keen to come back to the cold weather and completely different lifestyle as he really loved South Africa and all his friends were there too. As his age, 75, Dad had already had some major health scares and his challenges with his spine and back were increasing, so I understand from a medical point of view, the UK was a better option. Additionally where they were living was becoming more dangerous by the day. So this is when I made my first decision without really thinking it through. I agreed after some "manipulation" and from a sense of guilt, to have my parents move in with me. Dad was never going to be a problem but well my mother, any daughter can understand that challenge. Not only that I was married at the time. I really didn't take my husbands concerns into serious consideration and I was soon to pay for that lack of judgement.

So five years on, divorced and alone with my Dad for the last two years, things were ok and easy going. My Mum had decided she needed to find them a place as with the challenges of my divorce and problems my Mum and I were having, I needed her out of the house. My Dad wanted to remain with me where I looked after him most of the time, but also understood I needed my own time so this year he would spend the weekend with my Mum which for the most part gave his a bit of variety. His physical condition was getting worse throughout the year and we were very nervous for him because of the potential of a bad fall. And that is exactly what happened in the late morning in August. He had a critical fall and broke his neck. It was a terrible shock for all of us including my Dad of course.

We were at the time unaware of how serious the fall was as the doctors confirmed he was paralysed from his shoulders down. God I was devastated as even though he was wobbly on his feet he was still able to moved about on his crutches and now being totally unable to move his arms or legs, I knew would have been horrendous for him. It was then I realised my life was about to change. Understanding the degree of damage to his spine it dawned on me that in fact he could die from his condition. Soon thereafter the specialists in hospital confirmed it was unlikely he would make it through the next few days. Wow what a blow and suddenly my life was changed in that instant. I know my Dad would prefer to go instead of remaining in a body that didn't work. But what shock! This wonderful and gorgeous man was dying right before my eyes.

My journey over my life has always been linked in some way to the spiritual world. Was always interested in the imaginary people around me ever since I was small, a keen interest in fairies, angels, ghosts and anything mythical or magical. I have known I had a guardian angel by my side for almost all my life. So when two years ago I started this personal transformational journey, it felt like the perfect thing to be doing. I hadn't realised the impact it had really had on me until my father had his accident. Even though I wanted him to ok and alive, it was my inner sense, a voice that said it would be ok if he carried on with his own journey. That is when I found peace that no matter what happened it would be the right thing for him. He didn't want to go into a home, he felt life was leaving his body though his mind was so active and alive. I know it frustrated him but he never complained. Within 4 days my Dad passed. The incredible thing is he hang on until my sister who lives in New Zealand arrived. She had about 20 min with him and then he was gone. Even as I write these words my heart hurts and tears role down my face and I am at peace. I miss seeing him every morning in his bed looking out into the garden where I brought his tea and biscuits. The evening spent drinking wine and reminiscing and really just the wonderful time I had to get to know him not just as my Dad but as a man. He is with me always with little signs where ever I look. I have the privilege of knowing some great mediums and have had solace in knowing he is doing really well and is supporting me with all his love. I am truly privileged to have known such a great man, a wonderful husband, an beautiful father and a darling friend.

I know that the choice I made to have my parents come and live with me was in fact the greatest decision I had ever made as it gave me the last 5 precious of my Dad's life. For that I am truly grateful and honoured!

It is now time to move forward with my life and I thank the universe, divine source for giving me 40 years with someone so wonderful who I have learnt so much from. May your memory life on forever Dad and know I love you with all my heart x

Living a life of AUTHENTICITY

Recently I have been so challenged about really living a life that works 100% for me!  I am not expressing all that comes to me in moments and especially times when I need to be the most open. How come I do not feel safe with some people to trust what they do with my vulnerability? Its probably because unfortunately I keep being proven right as being so honest and vulnerable has then been used to gain an outcome that is not mutually beneficial.

I believe one of the challenges is I want to assume the best of everyone and often believe they have the same values and beliefs as I do. Then I find out that in fact I am the fool for allowing myself to believe this is possible just because someone says I love you. Understanding their intent is important but more importantly having the sensory acuity to know when you are being exploited in the nicest possible way. And each time you pull back they draw you back in as they know just what to say and how to make you feel special. The challenging thing about this is the person isn't fully aware of their actions and behaviours and can not see what they are doing. Deniability it seems is the best excuse to get out of something you can't handle or don't want to instead of talking about it, having an open honest conversation.

It's interesting how a person can say something and then behave in a totally contradictory way and then use what they said as the "get out clause" or the "I haven't done anything wrong as I said right in the beginning" line. Knowing that some one is vulnerable in a specific area of the relationship and not being careful not to encourage it, so as to not have the desired outcome which will be inevitable, for me is the act of a master deceiver.

So now what.......Well you learn the lessons you need to, you forgive yourself and you move forward so that the perfect partnership of someone who loves you with the right intention and honours who you are, respects you too much to take advantage of you weaknesses,  is genuine is all they say and do and just loves you for who you are!  But until that wonderful person arrives in your life to lick your wounds, you share your story and embrace the healing process. You work very hard on not assuming everyone is like them no matter how many times it has happened, it is just you haven't learn't the lesson yet............well now I HAVE! Thank you Divine Source for you love as it is the only true one x

What is LOVE?

This question keeps coming up not only in my head but a lot of friends are asking the same question! So here are my thoughts on it and these are based on my own personal experiences and what I have observed around me.....

Firstly there is self love. Now this is strange thing indeed! I have spent many months if not years working out how to love myself as of course I am my own worst critic in every area of my life. I now know that I would never talk to other people the way I tend to talk to myself so this has been the first learning. Then accepting things about yourself that are just what they are. Each of us is SO unique and until we really understand this concept and embrace it we will never appreciate how amazing we actually are - every single one of us! However there is also the collective self love, belonging, feeling a sense of togetherness even though we spend most of live trying to be individualistic! Eventually we want to come back to being part of the whole!  So self love is definitely where we need to start. It begins with acceptance of oneself, recognising the beauty and uniqueness of who we are! Loving our bodies no matter what bits we really do not like as we were designed perfectly even if we over the years have messed things up a little, its the bodies way of taking care of us and protecting us. Once you realise this you can then have a great relationship with the "other you" in my case the "fat me" and embrace both the elements of my body. This allows you to have a new relationship which is kinder with yourself and believe it or not you really want to start looking after yourself much more once you connect properly. Another major area is what you believe in and what your values are. I have always been inclined to stick to my values and beliefs that serve me and others however this has not always made me popular or many friends as no matter what I will not compromise on this area of my life. And honestly it has stood me in good stead for all my life as I am congruent with who I am and my actions everyday. That doesn't mean to say I don't mess up or make major mistakes, but it does mean I can see them, learn from the experience and take with me what I need to in my future.

The next area of love I believe is probably the most difficult is the that of unconditional love. Now this would also apply to yourself, however it seems easier some how to be much more so with those externally. I think the best examples of unconditional love is not human! It is the dog, the cat, the pet, the horse, the wild animals and almost anything that isn't human! Animals seem to have a natural sense of unconditional love and everyday I am reminded about this from the dogs I meet when I go out to the little darling cat I have at home. Wow they really do love you no matter what and their are so sensitive to your emotions, moods and feelings and know just what you need. THIS IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE as most of the time there is no condition by which they will give you love and affection. So this is a major area for me not only personally but to see how we can embrace this as humans and share it with each other every opportunity we can. What it basically comes down to is that if you do not rely on anyone else to fulfil your "need" for love as you love yourself fully, then unconditional love becomes second nature. This is HARD! Giving so much love and attention and expecting NOTHING in return as it compliments you but doesn't have to fulfil you. This can be in friendships, working relationships and of course in romantic relationships.

So moving on to romantic relationships this is what I feel deep down inside:
If you love someone just for who they are in the present
You love them on an emotional, intellectual and spiritual level
You connect with them deeply on all three levels
You are their equal when sharing in your love strategies
And intimacy is not the focus of the relationship but just the natural express of this great love
Then I believe you have the perfect romantic relationship

This is something I have been experiencing myself simply due to circumstances of distance between me and the person I love. It has a deep level of experience I have NEVER had before. Its intensity and emotional charge is so overwhelming that there are no words in the English language to describe it fully! It is a connection that surpasses time, distance, human nature and blockages as LOVE is the ultimate healing power. It is something I will be working at every day! Our true selves are just love and all of us just have to break down the protection barriers, the walls, the bars we have developed to "protect" ourselves to be able to reach the true essence of who we are as humans.

It is this love vibration that will help to raise the frequency of the planet so that Mother Earth can start to heal herself and sustain our glorious existence for many thousands of years to come! This is my only purpose is to connect with the true essence of love within and share it with those around me and all over the world as we are one and we are the whole! So just be love, breath love, speak love, do love, spread love and most of all be loving to yourself.

I love you all from the depths of my being and hope you will be come with me on this incredible journey to help change the world x

Releasing the emotional weight!

So it is a while since my last post - almost a month. A lot of it has to do with the amount of energy I have had to get tons of things that needing doing done! In the last 3 weeks I have been able to release 15.2 pounds of emotional weight I no longer needed to protect me. The interesting thing is that it is not so much the weight that is the focus but rather the emotional state I am now feeling - its like a dark veil has been lifted and I am just enjoying life so much more.


I think part of this has to do what you keep your mind focused on. Releasing the weight for me was a forgone conclusion as with only 500 calories a day I was bound to be getting a little lighter. However the added bonus was the good feeling I had with the unique Cura Romana spray you are on for the entire 24 days of doing the protocol. I felt happier, more at peace, more focused on myself in a good way than I had ever been before - really quite strange! I also learnt to accept myself as I am even though I still have at least another 30 pounds or so to release. I am understanding that the "fat me" is also part of the "thin me" thanks to Marianne Williamson's book A Course In Weight Loss - it is so much about my relationship with me and my body! Very good lessons and I am still learning them as each day teaches me something new!


I have to say I miss the spray as now I have gone into consolidation which is for 6 weeks where you eat more normally just no carbohydrates or sugars but more than 500 calories a day. However it is back in the real world and so need to ensure I can continue my new eating habit and take good care of myself.


Having looked at many exercise options I have decided on hot yoga where the room is 42 degrees. It would appear I am a Kapha Dosha which is a Ayurvedic body type which likes heat and responds well. So booked in a 30 day challenge to do it each day and see what happens! Supposed to be great for your body as well as your health, helps with weight reduction and makes your muscles supplier. 


Additionally to all this I have also been working on some great products. Wow it certainly makes a huge difference when you are working on things your love and with people you enjoy. The events I am working on are truly a lot of fun, working with spiritually enlightened mentors is always a blessing. I have a great opportunity to learn so much from those I am working with even though I am mentoring them, everyday I am learning so much more from them! I realised the thing I really enjoy the most is taking someone's vision or dream and helping them to make it a reality for themselves. I am just a facilitator as most of the work they are doing themselves just with a bit of guidance. I have had some major breakthroughs myself just working with these special souls. It is incredible that when your life is suddenly aligned to its purpose, how you attract exactly the kind of people you want to work with. I believe so much in them and what they are doing which also helps. I am interested in developing long term relationships and life time friends and people I can collaborate with as this will be the future of business and personal transformation. 


Come and join us at www.celticspiritualawakening.com this truly amazing event we are all contributing too. It will be great fun! So until next time remember to love deeply and share unconditionally x

Inside out and Outside In!

I have always struggled with my weight from around the age of 22ish. I used to be very active in my earlier years at school and even did a modelling stint for a couple of years. I was then diagnosed with a kidney malfunction and one of my kidney's just shrunk and became in active. Then a few years later I was diagnosed with high blood pressure (they think it may be related to kidney problem but might have been hereditary).

Anyway for the past 20 years my weight has gone up and down from a size 12 to my biggest at a size 22! 5 years ago I released a lot of weight - around 5 and half stone on a programme called Lighterlife. You can read all about it in my blog I did at the time http://tamarpeterslighterlife.blogspot.com/. It was life changing at the time as not only had I dropped from a size 22/24 to a size 14/16 but it was my first exposure to Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. My first introduction to self development. Not only did my body change but so did the way I thought. Nearly 5 years later and I have put back on about half of the weight now a size 18-20.

I am going through my own personal spiritual journey now and this wonderful opportunity to do this "Protocol" came across my path, Cura Romana. Never heard of it before but wow is it just so right for me right now. It is not just about weight reduction, in fact it is more about your inner self, your love for who you are, self healing and letting go and so much more. It resets your metabolism (very high level explanation of actually the power of what it does) however it is a holistic approach to be something of constant change and re-establishment rather than something you do, it is something you become.

This the beginning of my journey to looking not only from the inside out but from the outside in too. So I started the Protocol yesterday. You have 2 "feast" days where basically you are encourage to eat as much natural fats (good ones) as you can such as butter, oil, dairy and other lovely things like high quality chocolate. At the same time you are using this incredible Essential spray which you take 4 times a day under your tongue. Days 3-24 are focused on 500 calories a day, protein, veg and fruit. If you want to read up on all the details please feel free to go to http://curaromana.com/program/How-Cura-Romana-works.php. This is so your body has the opportunity to focus on balancing the hormones, the chemicals and systems that are out of kilter. The spray is the key and the rest is all about you knowing and connecting with your body understanding what is going on with it. I started it yesterday and it is already having a profound emotional and spiritual affect on me. I am wanting to sleep a lot, but then wake up feeling alive and wonderful. I am getting SO much clarity about things in my life that have been puzzling me for months - extraordinary! I feel different so thought it would be great to keep a diary of my experience so I can share it with other people and help if they were interested. So for the next 3 weeks my blog will be focused daily on my experiences and emotions. It will be an honest and open account of my journey as I truly believe it will be an inspirational one. So on day 2 now and not as tired as yesterday but more soporific. Clear minded and happy! Weight starting..(and don't be shocked as I have always been heavy even though I may not look as heavy) 108.7 kgs. I am still 108.7 kgs on day two even though I have eaten much more than I would normally do. Been taking the spray as directed and just feeling wonderful.

Tomorrow I will post information on the first day of the reduced calorie intake plan! Very excited xx

Opportunities to see how much one has changed

It's incredible. I haven't written for a few weeks and coming back to my blog I read a very interesting comment associated with one of my posts. I have left it up and given my response as felt this would be the most genuine thing to do. The ability I have had to let that kind of comment not affect me personally it amazing. I read it and thought wow, this person is seriously unhappy and still holding onto the past and onto some interesting untruths. But that's ok as its about them, I feel truly sorry they feel the way they do as not sure how it helps them and unfortunately has no affect on me any more. I know who I am, I know what I did, I also know the truth and so my heart and soul is at peace and content.

So this leads me onto the issue of whether we realise some times how much we change, grow, develop and transform? Things happen so much quicker in today's times and its only when situations like the one above presents itself when you truly get the opportunity to finally realise how MUCH you have changed. Many people over the last few months have said it to me, especially people who haven't seen me for a while, however it wasn't until now that I realised I REALLY have grown as person.

I love my life and what I do every day. I work with such incredible people who really care about each other, support each other and want the best for us all. They are generous of spirit and their intentions are honourable and pure. It helps one to be brought up to that level too, each and ever day. Times have changed and continue to do so for the best I believe and even though my past experiences haven't always been easy, I would not be in the space I am now if I hadn't gone through them. NO point in living in the past as it doesn't define us and neither does the future. I do not need to have an identity through my work or business any more, I am truly happy doing what I do now which is working and helping people realise their dreams as they help me realise my true purpose. The important thing is to let go and allow ones life to unfold as it should. To be of service, to be grateful and kind, to love unconditionally and to do what you absolutely know is your life's purpose.

In recent months I have met some incredible thought leaders, speakers, inspirers entrepreneurs, healers and individuals that have changed my life for ever. It been incredible that when you are in flow and doing what you are meant too, how you attract the right or the people you need into your life. That doesn't mean you still won't also attract opportunities that are uncomfortable but it is in these wonderful situations you learn the most about who you truly are.

Thank you for my past mistakes, my past learnings as I have always stayed true to myself and with honesty and integrity being the foundation of my values, I will continue to just be the best me I can be x

The Graft Is Greener – Tamar Peters | The South African

The Graft Is Greener – Tamar Peters | The South African

My Grandest Illusion

This morning I woke up to such a clear message in my head that I had to lie in bed for a few minutes and allow it to really sink in! For the past few weeks I have been restless, unhappy, unable to sleep well, emotional and just generally not at ease. Now it finally makes sense!

I have a passion for helping people realise their full potential within themselves as well as in their jobs/businesses or even relationships. It is something I have been doing all my life however I do not seem to have learnt the most important lesson of all, which is what I have FINALLY learnt TODAY!

The illusion of seeing the potential in someone and recognising for who they are right now in this present moment. It sounds very simple but for me it is a revelation. For as long as I can remember I can look at someone and when getting to know them a little better, I see who they really under all the masks, covers, learnt behaviours and the huge potential of them. Not having understood this may not be something everyone can I just thought it was the way things were. This for the most part has really helped me when working with friends or clients to gain clarity and understand themselves better. The one area where it has not helped me is in my intimate love relationships. It occurred to me I was repeating the same cycle when it came to matters of a boyfriend or husband. Beside the fact of course without loving myself fully I was seeking their love to fill the void as I described in the previous post, I am now aware of the fact I fell in love with the idea of the potential person I could see and not the one in the present moment. This just spells trouble!

It is OK when you use this innate ability that I believe most women have, with friends, family and clients, however mine seems to be highly sensitive and has blinded me so much in the past when it comes to intimate relationships.

None truer than the one I have just experienced. When I connected with someone (doesn't happen too often) at such a deep level it took my breath away, I understood this as being one of those "special" relationships. As it happens so rarely in my life, when it does come I am totally consumed by it or should I say the "potential" of it. The reality of the last 3 months has shown me it is quite a different matter. I had this sense of unease and that something wasn't quite right. Now having looked back I can see in hindsight how this happened. If a potential other is so connected with you energetically it is hugely alluring and intense. It is much more so if you have the same outlook on life, the same understanding of your personal journey, similar appreciation for the same life changing experiences. However it does not or rather should not blind one to the reality of the situation and the truth of the persons present being. You can mistake heart felt connection and love with "being in love" especially with the "potential" of that person.

I had realised a while back after my last divorce I was constantly want to help the other person become more than what they already were. Now understand this was not just me wanting more for them, it was very much at the request and invite of the other. They wanted to improve themselves, they wanted to be more of something or the other and I had their "permission". It still wasn't going to work though as I have had my idea of what "potential" they had and they had their own idea. Most of the time luckily it was very close to being the similar idea but realistically the expectations I had were very much based on who and what I was as a person and not based on who or what they were in their current state. This opened up a can of worms as of course I used to get constantly disappointed, disillusioned and frustrated as they were not becoming what I believed their potential (my version of it) could be. They were happy with their own progress but had me still trying to push them to keep going, keep growing so that they would finally fulfil the illusion of the man I had "fallen in love with".

Ultimately I have never been in love with a man! Wow..........not surprised though as I am only now starting to understand self love and growing from the inside out. So to those that I have not been true to I am Sorry, Forgive me, I love you and thank you for this great lesson! x

Love - how does one love?

It is said that as an Aquarian (my Sun sign) we are aloof and no very romantic by nature. My Moon though is Pisces and they are very sensitive and romantic. So honestly where do I fit in, myself, personally and the great I am?

Well the first thing I know is I love people. I love most things in fact like nature, all animals, friends, family, business and life in general. But this is a kind of platonic love - a love of a different kind. Now I am realising that love is the strongest and most power emotion we as human have the pleasure of experiencing. Unconditional love for all those around you is what we are all peeling back the layers to expose as part of our life journey. It is what we are at our core. It is already naturally inside of us, but we have learnt how to cover it up, put it away and protect is from ourselves and others around us.

We try to define it, measure it, control it, rule it when all we have to do is BE it. Why then is it so hard to bring out of us what is so obviously the best part of us and can change the world as we know it?

I now understand (FINALLY) it starts with loving ourselves. So what does that really mean? Knowing yourself, your limitations, your values, your true worth, your good and bad points and still accepting and appreciating yourself for the truly unique and wonderful soul you are.

I have learnt recently sometimes in love, you have to be patient, don't rush in as it is important to notice if you are ignoring something in yourself,  are you just trying to fill your own needs such as the lack of self love, lack of self worth or not feeling good enough? Where you not shown love as a child or made to feel as if you were not good enough or worthy enough? Are you seeking this from someone else to fill the void? When we do not learn to love ourselves first, appreciate and feel good about who we are and we are worthy of love and what the world has to offer, we find the patterns repeating themselves as they have done previously. Wow this was a big one for me as now I only truly see what I was doing. This type of repetitive behaviour can lead to unhappiness,especially when you feel you are not being paid enough attention in the relationship. It is important to look at what is lacking in your own life and begin to self heal so that you do not continue this destructive unhappy cycle. You are the only one who can change it.

I realised that holding back my true feeling can be worse than rejection, conflict or fear of getting hurt or let down. It is better to know what the real situation really is no matter how hurtful and painful it may be than to hide my feeling and always wonder what might have happened had I said what I felt or how i felt? When you speak your truth you honour who your are as your true self. You deserve to be heard no matter what your feelings. It takes courage and it can be daunting but the rewards are bigger than you could ever imagine as you step into your power and reveal your truth. You always know your truth as it is deep inside you. You can look elsewhere for it, in others in the ones we love but no one will know the truth more than you do. When we go with in ourselves through meditation and quieten ourselves long enough, we will find we have the answers we just need to release them and not be afraid. It is difficult to know the truth but do not be afraid as you will always be protected as long as you tune into the true you.

Sometimes it is necessary to let go and it doesn't mean you do not care about someone any more, its just realising the only person you really have control over is yourself and you can not live your life through others and expectations of others based on what you would do or how you would be.

One of the lessons in love is to have Trust. The lesson for us is to truly trust ourselves and our spirit, our true self. When we trust our senses to find what is right for us and know our intuition is guiding us by coming from the heart and a place of love, we must listen to that inner voice as it will NEVER lead us astray. How many times have you had that knowing feeling, gut instinct about someone or something, but have rationalised it, made excuses and justified it? I have done it just too many times and finally I am trusting myself and listening intently to the lessons.

I will leave you with this little story which I think perfectly describes what love is for me.....

“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you"

Be love x

Realities in your own perspective

So having now changed my working environment and released myself of all the daily stresses, I focused on my home situation. Isn't it funny how when we change ourselves to ensure we are better than we were, it is not always going to be good for those around us. This was certainly so in my personal relationships. It all started when I first discovered Lighter Life. A dieting programme that is extreme however very effective.

Part of the journey with them was learning about Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). What is that I hear some of you say.....well at the time I had no clue either but sounded interesting as it involved changing your mind set around food or any other addiction. Little did I know that this first introduction to a change of mindset would later open my mind to other concepts such as NLP.

It was extremely successful in helping me to reduce my weight by over 5 stone within 3 months and forever change my eating habits and how I related to food. However there was an interesting twist in this story, I was so excited about reducing my weight that I didn't notice that in fact my ex-husband (husband at the time) actually was getting more and more insecure in our relationship.

What I didn't at the time was that I was not only changing shape and looking much better but my personality, confidence and behaviours had also changed. Basically my husband was now married to a different looking and behaving wife. Now for most people this would be a great result as of course our loved ones want us to be fit and healthy and look good and feel great about ourselves, don't they?

Well as it turned out, mine didn't. He suddenly became very insecure, wasn't happy with what I was wearing, kept checking up on me when out with friends or working late and we fought a lot! I couldn't understand it! Now I do..... having looked back and realised that in fact I was much more confident, wasn't settling for his bad behaviour, his insecurities and with him not having any ambitions to improve his life or our life. Then of course I joined the personal development world and that just turned our relationship inside out. Initially I was just going on these courses - however every time I returned home, I was significantly different as I had experienced so many shifts and changes in my thinking and even the way I looked.

Once you start learning this kind of information you can't undo it or go back to the old way of thinking and this is when the real problems started. I was so engrossed in this new life, this new me, this new environment and then in this new job that my husband could not really relate too. He had come on one of the intro events but I just felt the timing for him was not right and he didn't really get any of it. However he did remain supportive as he could see I was happy. However this was not to last as we great apart in so many ways.

I was aware this could happen as being in the position I was with the business I could see it happening to many couples - it either brings you closer together or reveals all the real cracks in your relationship. Unfortunately for us it was very much highlighting our differences and how much we had grown apart.

I then decided after a year of trying to work on it (especially with the tools I now had and the understanding I would not have had previously) however it has to come from both sides, and it didn't. To cut a very long boring story short, it ended rather badly and cost a lot of money and an entire year of heart ache, anger, daily living together challenges and all kinds of unwanted problems.

In the end he was removed from the property and 4 months later we were divorced. It was all terribly traumatic and something I have learnt a lot from never to do again.

I certainly hope he is happier now as I know I am. The last 3 years of my life have been the most challenging and yet most rewarding years and I am now seriously looking forward to 2012 continuing as it is as so far it has started superbly!

I look back on a personal level and realise how far I have come and so much better for it!