Love - how does one love?

It is said that as an Aquarian (my Sun sign) we are aloof and no very romantic by nature. My Moon though is Pisces and they are very sensitive and romantic. So honestly where do I fit in, myself, personally and the great I am?

Well the first thing I know is I love people. I love most things in fact like nature, all animals, friends, family, business and life in general. But this is a kind of platonic love - a love of a different kind. Now I am realising that love is the strongest and most power emotion we as human have the pleasure of experiencing. Unconditional love for all those around you is what we are all peeling back the layers to expose as part of our life journey. It is what we are at our core. It is already naturally inside of us, but we have learnt how to cover it up, put it away and protect is from ourselves and others around us.

We try to define it, measure it, control it, rule it when all we have to do is BE it. Why then is it so hard to bring out of us what is so obviously the best part of us and can change the world as we know it?

I now understand (FINALLY) it starts with loving ourselves. So what does that really mean? Knowing yourself, your limitations, your values, your true worth, your good and bad points and still accepting and appreciating yourself for the truly unique and wonderful soul you are.

I have learnt recently sometimes in love, you have to be patient, don't rush in as it is important to notice if you are ignoring something in yourself,  are you just trying to fill your own needs such as the lack of self love, lack of self worth or not feeling good enough? Where you not shown love as a child or made to feel as if you were not good enough or worthy enough? Are you seeking this from someone else to fill the void? When we do not learn to love ourselves first, appreciate and feel good about who we are and we are worthy of love and what the world has to offer, we find the patterns repeating themselves as they have done previously. Wow this was a big one for me as now I only truly see what I was doing. This type of repetitive behaviour can lead to unhappiness,especially when you feel you are not being paid enough attention in the relationship. It is important to look at what is lacking in your own life and begin to self heal so that you do not continue this destructive unhappy cycle. You are the only one who can change it.

I realised that holding back my true feeling can be worse than rejection, conflict or fear of getting hurt or let down. It is better to know what the real situation really is no matter how hurtful and painful it may be than to hide my feeling and always wonder what might have happened had I said what I felt or how i felt? When you speak your truth you honour who your are as your true self. You deserve to be heard no matter what your feelings. It takes courage and it can be daunting but the rewards are bigger than you could ever imagine as you step into your power and reveal your truth. You always know your truth as it is deep inside you. You can look elsewhere for it, in others in the ones we love but no one will know the truth more than you do. When we go with in ourselves through meditation and quieten ourselves long enough, we will find we have the answers we just need to release them and not be afraid. It is difficult to know the truth but do not be afraid as you will always be protected as long as you tune into the true you.

Sometimes it is necessary to let go and it doesn't mean you do not care about someone any more, its just realising the only person you really have control over is yourself and you can not live your life through others and expectations of others based on what you would do or how you would be.

One of the lessons in love is to have Trust. The lesson for us is to truly trust ourselves and our spirit, our true self. When we trust our senses to find what is right for us and know our intuition is guiding us by coming from the heart and a place of love, we must listen to that inner voice as it will NEVER lead us astray. How many times have you had that knowing feeling, gut instinct about someone or something, but have rationalised it, made excuses and justified it? I have done it just too many times and finally I am trusting myself and listening intently to the lessons.

I will leave you with this little story which I think perfectly describes what love is for me.....

“I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you"

Be love x